Nameless Name...

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

WHO EXACTLY thought that HONESTY was a GOOD IDEA?! Can I find them? Throttle them? Shake them a few times until their explanation tumbles from them and I can STOMP IT INTO THE GROUND WITH MY FOOT?

GAAAAH.

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[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Evil. Bad. Hiss. Booooo.

[intraspective]

*pulls out a notebook*

Alright then, why is it 'evil, bad, hiss, booooo'?

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Because it means I have to admit to all the things I think but would never say and I'm not a terribly good person.

[intraspective]

Most people aren't, duh. But if you're lying all that much you might want to consider quitting it a bit in ordinary life 'cause it's not fair to keep lying to people.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

It's not lying if you just don't say it.

[intraspective]

Lies of omission. Surely you've heard of them?

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Yes. But it's easier to--

GAH, it's infecting me HERE TOO. *HAAATES*

[intraspective]

Come on, you've got to continue that sentence:

'But it's easier to--'

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

It's easier to pretend it's all right then!

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It's not as if everything I say is a lie or a lie of omission. Just... some important things. It's like grease! You don't need much, but it makes things go more smoothly when you use it a little!

[intraspective]

Until there's so much grease that you wind up crashing and going up in flames?

Because that totally sounds easier, don't you know.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Yes. And probably pretty from a distance. And warm! Fire is warm! DO NOT DENY MY LOGIC.

[intraspective]

...

There is no logic there, Liir. Watching your relationships crash and burn is not pretty, or warm.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Well, no.

Avoidance is another one of those things I prefer.

[intraspective]

Avoidance doesn't fix things, you know that, right?

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Yes, but it gives me time to think of what to do. I'm not particularly good with surprises.

[intraspective]

And avoiding it makes it easier? I don't get that at all.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

It gives me time to think of what should be done. And then, when I'm ready, I stop avoiding it.

[intraspective]

And what if, in avoiding it, you only make it worse? Some people don't like being left alone.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Then that's unfortunate. It's a gamble either way. Stay and possibly ruin things. Go and think and try and fix things later and possibly ruin things by waiting. Different people prefer different things. Unfortunate but true.

[intraspective]

Why never stay and fix things?

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

With you or with other people?

[intraspective]

Why not both? People in general, and me in specific.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

With some people, I do. It depends on how they act. If it's obvious that they just want to be mad at me and have me stand there and take it, I'm not going to stand there and take it. Especially if they've already decided that I did things for this reason or that reason and don't want to listen to what I have to say about my reasons for my actions.

If they're mad at me and they say what they want me to fix, I'll explain why I did it, promise to fix my mistake, ie, thing I did accidentally without meaning to cause harm, and things should be fixed.

[intraspective]

There's nothing in there about apologizing for your mistakes, I note. And you've the nerve to call me arrogant.

At least I can apologize for my mistakes without trying to turn it around and make it the fault of someone else.

[new-to-liirness.livejournal.com]

Changing my behavior would be a part of the apology. I didn't mention it because you always seem to say that actions speak louder than words. But I would, of course, apologize. When do I NOT when I think I've done the wrong thing?

And I didn't turn around and make it anyone else's fault. I got angry with you in return because when I ASK you what's wrong, you play games expecting me to stick around and prod until you tell me. Two very different things.